compassion

i have another post i was working on.  but something has come up. 

yesterday i received a facebook message from a my friend maria that an la mom we both know (she knows her much better than me) has had a loss in her family. 

her husband died on saturday of a brain tumor. 

i'm gonna call the woman who's husband died tessa to be respectful and protect her privacy.

this was not exactly unexpected.  i remembered going to a cook out on a sunday afternoon about a year ago, maybe a little longer, and meeting tessa's husband.  it was, maybe, a month later that i found out that they had just found out that he had brain cancer.  some type of rare kind.  my heart went out to them. 

i had only met tessa once or twice before then.  i joined a mom's group in la when we first moved here and tessa was also a member.  i really only know her through her facebook posts. 

the thing is, they have a three year old boy and tessa just gave birth mid-august to a baby girl.  i can't imagine what this family has been going through and what they will go through.  i can't seem to get it out of my mind.  the compassion i have for her is so much.  one can't help but look at situations like this with a tinge of looking at it with respect to their own lives.  since cashel is almost three i can only imagine what tessa's conversations are like with her son about what has been happening with his dad and what happened on saturday.  the conversations yet to come.  the same for her daughter, although i would imagine these conversations will be equally tough but different since the baby is so young right now.  postpartum hormones.  that must compound everything.  his mom and dad and the loss of a child. 

i just feel so much for this family that i barely know.